The Dispatch
No XLVIII · Separation · 5 min
The first 30 days after she says it's over
A blunt field guide to the first month after the conversation. Sleep, paperwork, the kids, and the part nobody warns you about.
No XXIII · MENTAL HEALTH
Mental health support for divorced men, where to find it
MHCP, MensLine, Mindspot, This Way Up, Lysn. The Australian map of what works, what costs what, and what to call tonight.
26 Apr 2026 · 8 min
No XXII · MENTAL HEALTH
Online therapy options, compared
Lysn, BetterHelp, Mindspot, This Way Up, MensLine. What each one costs, who it suits, and which to start with this week.
26 Apr 2026 · 8 min
No XXI · MENTAL HEALTH
Building a support network when you don't have one
Wednesday night, no one to call. The honest map for rebuilding adult male friendship from a low base, without pretending to be someone else.
26 Apr 2026 · 9 min
No XX · LEGAL
The 'best divorce lawyer' question, answered properly
Why 'who's the best divorce lawyer in Australia' is the wrong question, and the right questions to ask instead before you sign anything.
26 Apr 2026 · 7 min
No XIX · LEGAL
Your first meeting with a family lawyer
What to bring, what to ask, what to expect to spend. A practical prep guide for the appointment that sets the tone for everything else.
26 Apr 2026 · 6 min
No XVIII · LEGAL
Navigating child support as a divorced father
The inside view of the system: how to handle changes, what to push back on, and how to keep the kids out of the financial talk.
26 Apr 2026 · 8 min
No XVII · LEGAL
Divorce rights in Australia, the basics
What the Family Law Act gives you, what divorce really means in legal terms, and the difference between divorce and settlement.
26 Apr 2026 · 8 min
No XVI · FINANCE
Financial planning after divorce, seven moves that matter
Divorce halves the household income and doubles the admin. Seven moves I'd make in the first six months, ranked by what actually matters.
26 Apr 2026 · 7 min
No XV · FINANCE
Rebuilding your life after divorce
Rebuilding isn't a single decision. It's a thousand small ones, made on bad days, that eventually point in the same direction.
26 Apr 2026 · 7 min
No XIV · FINANCE
The single-income mortgage conversation
On one income the mortgage maths flips. Here's the conversation I had with myself, the bank, and the broker, in that order.
26 Apr 2026 · 7 min
No XIII · CAREER
The day you get made redundant
What to actually do in the first 24 hours after a redundancy meeting, from someone who's been in the chair twice.
26 Apr 2026 · 6 min
No XII · CAREER
Understanding your redundancy rights
What you're actually owed under the NES, what you can negotiate, and when to call a lawyer before you sign.
26 Apr 2026 · 7 min
No XI · CAREER
How to job-search after 40
The job-search playbook changes after 40. Network, recruiters, contracting, and what stops working at the front door.
26 Apr 2026 · 8 min
No X · CAREER
The LinkedIn rebuild
What to fix on your LinkedIn after redundancy, why the headline matters most, and the half-day rebuild plan.
26 Apr 2026 · 7 min
No IX · CAREER
Contracting or permanent, after redundancy
The real maths on day rate vs salary, when each makes sense after redundancy, and the hybrid most people miss.
26 Apr 2026 · 7 min
No VIII · CAREER
Talking about being made redundant
How to tell your partner, kids, mates, and network without spinning, panicking, or burning bridges you'll need.
26 Apr 2026 · 7 min
No VII · FATHERHOOD
The third-trimester prep list
What you actually need ready before the baby arrives, from a first-time dad who learnt most of it the hard way.
26 Apr 2026 · 7 min
No VI · FATHERHOOD
What the birth is actually like (for the partner watching)
Honest notes on what the partner does, sees and feels in the birth room, from a dad who was there.
26 Apr 2026 · 8 min
No V · FATHERHOOD
The first six weeks with a newborn, by the hour
An honest, hour-by-hour look at the newborn fog from a dad who tracked it (because he had to).
26 Apr 2026 · 8 min
No IV · FATHERHOOD
How the relationship shifts after the baby
What changes between you and your partner once the baby arrives, and how to keep the relationship in the room.
26 Apr 2026 · 7 min
No III · FATHERHOOD
Parental leave in Australia, explained for dads
How Dad and Partner Pay, employer leave, and the newborn payments work in Australia, in plain English.
26 Apr 2026 · 7 min
No II · FATHERHOOD
Staying yourself as a new dad
How to keep your identity, friendships and inner life intact through the first year of fatherhood.
26 Apr 2026 · 7 min
No I · HEALTH
Why your old workout doesn't work anymore
The five-day split that built me at 30 was breaking me at 42. Here is what the evidence (and my Garmin) said to change.
26 Apr 2026 · 7 min
No · · HEALTH
The four lifts that matter after 40
Squat, hinge, press, pull. Two sessions a week. The unsexy programme that out-builds any spreadsheet of accessories.
26 Apr 2026 · 7 min