§ Journey
The first 90 days of getting through this.
The first ninety days after the conversation. What to do on day one. How to handle the kids without making them choose. The lawyer appointment. The money conversation. How to keep work, food and sleep going while the rest of life is on fire. Built for the version of you who didn't see this coming.
Begin →What to do, what to leave alone, and what every man gets wrong in the three days after she says it.
Sleep, food, training, work. What to drop, what to keep, and the minimum you need to not implode in the first 90 days.
The housing question in the first two weeks. Should you move out, what does it signal legally, what it costs, what to negotiate if you stay.
How to handle the first move, what to take, what to leave, and how to keep the separation civil while one of you sleeps somewhere else.
How to have the conversation with kids of any age, what not to say, and what to do when they cry or go silent.
What it costs, what to bring, what to ask, and the two questions every first meeting must answer before you walk out.
Joint accounts, mortgage, super, what to freeze, what to leave alone, what is actually illegal, and three rules for the next 30 days.
Scripts for telling your parents, your siblings, your closest mates, and your boss, in roughly that order.