§ Journey
Before "we need to talk". When something is wrong and you don't know what.
Naming what's happening, when the cliches turn out to be true. The audit, honestly done. Talking to her, in a way that doesn't end the conversation. Couples therapy, what it is, what it isn't, how to find someone, how to know it's working. The work on you, what you contributed, what you can change, what you can't. The decision points, when to keep going, when to separate, what good looks like either way. Neither pushes you toward separation nor toward "fight for your marriage" theatre.
Begin →The signs, the patterns, the cliches that are actually true. The honest read of the room you've been avoiding.
What's broken, what's salvageable, what's already over. A frame that doesn't pre-decide the answer.
How to start the conversation that doesn't end it. The setup, the opener, the listening half.
What it is, what it isn't, how to find someone, how to know it's working after four sessions.
What you contributed, what you can change, what you can't. Without making the work itself a guilt trip.
When to keep going, when to separate, what good looks like either way. The frameworks that don't lead to regret.