§ 01 · In crisis

A guided learning module

When You Realise You're Gay (And You're Married).

You know now. The marriage and the children and the next forty years are the questions.

About 10 weeks6 lessons · 40mFree

Length

About 10 weeks

Lessons

6 · 40m

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The arc · 6 lessons

01The realisation 02Before you tell anyone 03Telling her 04The kids question 05The legal and financial 06On the other side

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§ 01 · What you'll learn

01How to sit with the realisation before acting on it

02When (and whether) to tell your wife, and how

03How to handle the kids conversation by age

04The legal and financial reality in Australia

05How to find your people without performing or hiding

06What life on the other side can actually look like

§ 02 · Who it's for

01Realised it recently and haven't told anyone

02Knew for years and the marriage is now the conversation

03Already separated and trying to work out what comes next

§ 03 → The lessons

6 sessions, in order.

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01

The realisation

The moment of clarity, however it arrived. What you owe yourself first.

6 min 02

Before you tell anyone

Therapy first. Time. Why a single decision made fast at this moment is almost always the wrong one.

7 min 03

Telling her

How, where, what you can and can't say. What you owe her. What you owe yourself.

7 min 04

The kids question

By age. What to say. What to leave out. How to be honest without making the kids the audience for your own work.

6 min 05

The legal and financial

Separation, custody, property under Australian law. No-fault doesn't mean equal. The mediator's job. The lawyer's job.

7 min 06

On the other side

Identity. Dating. Friendships. Family. The version of life that begins on the day you stopped pretending.

7 min

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When You Realise You're Gay (And You're Married).

6 sessions, in order.

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The first 30 days after she says it's over

The conversation you saw coming

The conversation you didn't