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§ 03 · Long game
A guided journey

Quitting Drinking — The First 90 Days.

Not AA, not sober-curious. A 90-day field manual.

Length
About 12 weeks
Modules
6 · 33m
Done
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6 modules · arc reads left → right
  1. The arc
  2. 01The honest audit←
  3. 02The 30-day reset
  4. 03The social architecture
  5. 04The substitution problem
  6. 05The relapse map
  7. 06The 90-day verdict

The honest audit. The 30-day reset and what to expect physically week by week. The social architecture of telling people, navigating dinners, weddings, mates, your wife. The substitution problem. The relapse map and the three predictable failure points. The 90-day verdict and when DIY is enough versus when to call a GP. Behavioural protocol, not philosophy.

Begin →
§ 01What you'll learn
  1. 01How to audit your own drinking honestly
  2. 02What 30 days off does and doesn't change
  3. 03How to tell your wife, your mates, your colleagues, without making it weird
  4. 04The behavioural traps that cause weeks 6–9 to fail
  5. 05What to substitute, what doesn't help, what makes it worse
  6. 06When DIY is enough and when to escalate
§ 02Who it's for
  1. 01FIFO worker drinking on swing
  2. 02Corporate drinker self-medicating after work
  3. 03Has been "thinking about it for a year"
§ 03 - The modules

6 sessions, in order.

Begin
  1. 01

    The honest audit

    The 7-question test, the units, what your drinking is actually doing. The number you've been rounding down for years.

    5 min→
  2. 02

    The 30-day reset

    What to expect physically. Sleep, mood, energy week by week. The four predictable phases.

    6 min→
  3. 03

    The social architecture

    Telling people, navigating dinners, weddings, mates, your wife. Scripts that don't make it weird.

    6 min→
  4. 04

    The substitution problem

    What you reach for instead. What works, what doesn't, what makes it worse. Why low/no beer is mostly a trap.

    5 min→
  5. 05

    The relapse map

    The three predictable failure points and how to plan around them. Weeks 6–9 are where most men go back.

    6 min→
  6. 06

    The 90-day verdict

    What good looks like. When to keep going, when to stop, when to call a GP. The honest read at the end of the trial.

    5 min→