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His·Journey · Sydney est. 2025The Tracker · The Pledge§ For men in transition

© 2026 HisJourney · Vol. II

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§ 02 · New chapter
A guided journey

The First Year (Fatherhood, months 4–18).

Where the easy part ends and the genuinely hard parenting begins.

About 6 weeks6 modules · 34mFreeLeaderboard →
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The arc · 6 modules
01The four-month wall02Becoming a couple again03The mate question04The body of a new dad05Father-as-money-manager06The first birthday
Begin the journey →
§ 01 · What you'll learn
01Why month four is harder than month one
02How the partnership shifts and how to shift with it
03What happens to your friendships in the second half of year one
04How to keep your body when sleep debt is the constant
05The Australian admin you missed at three months and need at twelve
06How to mark the first birthday for all three of you
§ 02 · Who it's for
01Three months in and the easy story has stopped
02Six months in and not sure who he is anymore
03Approaching the first birthday and trying to take stock
§ 03 → The modules

6 sessions, in order.

Begin →
01
The four-month wall
Sleep regression, partner stress, work re-entry. Why the second three months are harder than the first three.
6 min→
02
Becoming a couple again
When the romantic relationship returns, often awkwardly. The conversations to have before resentment sets in.
6 min→
03
The mate question
Friendships at six months in. Who's still there, who quietly drifted, how to pull a few back without making it weird.
5 min→
04
The body of a new dad
Fitness, sleep debt, weight. The realistic version of "looking after yourself" when sleep is the constraint.
6 min→
05
Father-as-money-manager
Childcare costs, the new budget, super contributions while one income carries more weight.
6 min→
06
The first birthday
What twelve months has done to all of you. Marking the year without performing it.
5 min→
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