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His·Journey · Sydney est. 2025The Ledger · The Room · The Pledge§ For men in transition

© 2026 HisJourney · Vol. II

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§ 02 · New chapter
A guided journey

The First Year (Fatherhood, months 4–18).

Where the easy part ends and the genuinely hard parenting begins.

Length
About 6 weeks
Modules
6 · 34m
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6 modules · arc reads left → right
  1. The arc
  2. 01The four-month wall←
  3. 02Becoming a couple again
  4. 03The mate question
  5. 04The body of a new dad
  6. 05Father-as-money-manager
  7. 06The first birthday

The four-month wall — sleep regression, partner stress, work re-entry. Becoming a couple again when the romantic relationship returns. The mate question — friendships at six months in. The body of a new dad — fitness, sleep debt, weight. Father-as-money-manager — childcare, the new budget, super. The first birthday — what 12 months has done to all of you. The Journey First-Time Father stops short of, written for the men who report they "lost themselves" in this window.

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§ 01What you'll learn
  1. 01Why month four is harder than month one
  2. 02How the partnership shifts and how to shift with it
  3. 03What happens to your friendships in the second half of year one
  4. 04How to keep your body when sleep debt is the constant
  5. 05The Australian admin you missed at three months and need at twelve
  6. 06How to mark the first birthday for all three of you
§ 02Who it's for
  1. 01Three months in and the easy story has stopped
  2. 02Six months in and not sure who he is anymore
  3. 03Approaching the first birthday and trying to take stock
§ 03 - The modules

6 sessions, in order.

Begin
  1. 01

    The four-month wall

    Sleep regression, partner stress, work re-entry. Why the second three months are harder than the first three.

    6 min→
  2. 02

    Becoming a couple again

    When the romantic relationship returns, often awkwardly. The conversations to have before resentment sets in.

    6 min→
  3. 03

    The mate question

    Friendships at six months in. Who's still there, who quietly drifted, how to pull a few back without making it weird.

    5 min→
  4. 04

    The body of a new dad

    Fitness, sleep debt, weight. The realistic version of "looking after yourself" when sleep is the constraint.

    6 min→
  5. 05

    Father-as-money-manager

    Childcare costs, the new budget, super contributions while one income carries more weight.

    6 min→
  6. 06

    The first birthday

    What twelve months has done to all of you. Marking the year without performing it.

    5 min→